There are at least 8 million people in the United States living with an eating disorder. People with eating disorders can be treated successfully, but the solution isn't always as simple as changing their eating habits. Why? Because eating disorders are much more complicated than food alone. They commonly stem from emotional issues. You will find people restricting food because it gives them a feeling of control, overeating because it helps soothe their sorrow or rage, and purging because it helps them fight helplessness and self-hatred. One negative thought, even something as little as not liking their outfit, can add fuel to the fire and lead to more of these damaging behaviors.
 
If you recognize alarming habits in a friend or family member, speak up. You might be scared to say the wrong thing, but it's important that you let your concerns out in the open. The sooner you help them, the better it will be for their treatment and recovery. While you cannot force someone to change, you can offer them support and a helping hand. Even the smallest bit of reinforcement can make a vast difference in their recovery. Doing your best to understand what they are going through can help you provide them with a positive and supportive foundation throughout their journey to recovery.

Talking to a Loved One About Your Concerns

• Learn about eating disorders. The more you know, the better. Read books, articles, brochures, facts and myths about weight, nutrition, and exercise. Anything that will help you persuade them to act differently.

• Practice what you want to say before you say it. This will help reduce your own anxiety and clarify the message you want to send. It’s important that you avoid lecturing, criticizing or even accusing them of an eating disorder.

• Don't bombard them with an intervention and a crowd. Find an appropriate time and place where you can speak to the person in private with no distractions.

• Talk openly and honestly. Ignoring your concerns won't make them go away.

• Focus on behaviors you have personally observed. Instead of saying "you're not eating,” say something like "I have noticed you aren't eating dinner with us anymore." The way you present your concerns can go a long way.

• Caring about someone doesn't mean it’s okay for you to be manipulated. Try not to make any rules or promises, and don’t buy into any eating disorder excuses.

• End the stigma right away. Remember to tell your loved one that there's no shame in admitting they have a problem.

• Some people are glad to have their struggles noticed, but other times people may be in denial and show anger. Be prepared for a negative reaction. If this happens, stay strong and focused. Reiterate your concerns to let them know you care and are there for them when they are ready.

• Many eating disorders require help from a professional. Urge them to see a doctor as soon as possible. You can even suggest making the appointment for them and going along on the first visit, if they want someone by their side.

If you don't think your message was received, don't give up. You shared your concerns and you let them know you care. It might take some time for your words to sink in and for them to be ready and open to help. Just know there is no quick fix to an eating disorder. Recovery is long, but it’s worth it. Having a loved one by their side throughout the journey can make all the difference. For additional help, read this guide.

Sources
https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/learn/help/caregivers
https://www.waldeneatingdisorders.com/blog/3-ways-you-can-support-your-loved-one-in-eating-disorder-treatment/
https://www.helpguide.org/articles/eating-disorders/helping-someone-with-an-eating-disorder.htm